If it’s broke, can you fix it?

If it is the ceramic juicer that slipped from your hands and smashed into seven pieces, then it probably can’t be fixed. No amount of superglue is going to stick that sucker back together again.

You have to decide whether or not to buy a new one.
This one was a gift from One Girl to the other: ‘Just a little something to add to your home on a day when a lot is being taken away. Something just for your space.’ Used only twice before it multiplied across the kitchen floor. A utensil with significance, it had to be replaced.

If it is a dessert that does not make the grade, you take a deep breath, pat it, patch it, squish if you need to, stop it or prop it up with filing, cover it with garnish and do your best to make it presentable. You can scrape it into a bowl and call it trifle, Eton Mess, or name it after yourself and avoid judgement that way. You might even have to get in the car and go and pick up a Sara Lee. Just remember Julia Childs and never apologise.

“We ate the lunch with painful politeness and avoided discussing its taste. I made sure not to apologise for it. This was a rule of mine.
I don’t believe in twisting yourself into knots of excuses and explanations over the food you make…
Usually one’s cooking is better than one thinks it is. And if the food is vile,…then the cook must simply grit her teeth and bear it with a smile- and learn from her mistakes.”
If it is a friendship, then whether or not you can fix it depends on a couple of things, you, them, and the relationship.

Some are more easily mended that others. You might find the one you think will judge you harshest, seeks you out, surprising you instead. Accept this as a gift.

When you offer your hand and suggest a new start, a ‘yes’ might only be because ‘no’ is too hard to say. You might have thought there were deeper resources to draw but for whatever reason, they’re not there. Those friendships you just have to let go of.

Whatever you are trying to fix, regardless of how successful you are, it probably won’t look like you wanted it to. A fault line might still be visible, but it is still the same earth underneath your feet.

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